Tertiary Attraction

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Tertiary Attraction

Tertiary Attraction is a term from aro-spec communities to describe forms of attraction other than romantic and sexual. Typically romantic relationship contain a mix of all of these forms of attraction, but, because one or more form of attraction is missing it becomes easier for a-spec people to point out alternate forms of attraction.

While often dismissed by society tertiary attractions can be felt just as strongly as the attraction experienced by alloromantics/sexuals.

Tertiary attractions can be given modifiers using the usual prefixes. For example one can be bialterous, meaning they experience alterous attraction towards people of two or more genders.

Tertiary attraction is named such because romantic and sexual attraction are typically split into the 'main' two attractions using the split attraction model.1


Types of Tertiary Attraction2

Aesthetic

Usually desiring just to observe a person because one finds them aesthetically pleasing.

Name for Aesthetic Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): swish3

Name for an Aesthetic Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):observance?4

Names for an Aesthetic Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): idol, muse5

Alterous

Desiring emotional closeness without necessarily being (entirely or at all) platonic and/or romantic. Alterous attraction is most often experienced as a sort of “transitional” phase by alloromantic individuals; it is felt when the person is no longer sure whether or not they have a “crush” on the object of this attraction. For some, however, it’s a form of attraction all its own that straddles the line between platonic and romantic.

Name for Alterous Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): mesh, hush6

Name for an Alterous Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):varies, altership, appromour?7

Names for an Alterous Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): varies, altermate?8

Amical

Interchangeable with platonicity (sometimes refers to “best friends”); on a higher level of affinity than in just social/interpersonal circles (that are more impersonal).

Name for Amical Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): shush(?), thresh(?)9

Name for an Amical Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):varies, altership, appromour?10

Names for an Amical Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): partnership, (best?) friendship11

Cedural

Also known as “submissive attraction.” A desire to be protected, covered, understood, tutored, and supported by someone. Not to be confused as kink-related or sexual in nature.

Name for Cedural Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): gush, sush12

Name for an Cedural Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):wardship/guardianship13

Names for a Cedural Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): concomitant, guide partner14

Doraric

A desire to be close to, serve, and even worship someone out of an adoration which derives itself from attractions that are neither explicitly romantic, nor explicitly platonic. Considered a mix of spiritual and alterous attractions.

Name for Doraric Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): varies; imhush?15

Name for an Doraric Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):varies, servitude?16

Names for a Doraric Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): varies, idol?17

Emotional/Ecstatic

A broad term for a desire for commitment and mutual emotional nurturing, regardless of a relationship’s specific nature. To feel emotionally attracted to someone is to desire being consistently supportive of and supported by that person emotionally. Subtypes may include amorous, romantic, (q)platonic, mental, and amical attraction.

Name for Emotional/Ecstatic Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): blush?18

Name for an Emotional/Ecstatic Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):varies, reliance?19

Names for an Emotional/Ecstatic Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): varies, lighthouse?20

Erotic

Appreciation for sexual arts or a desire to know someone using one’s senses through explicitly sexual acts (such as gouinage). Considered a mix of aesthetic, sensual, and sexual attraction.

Emotional/Ecstatic

A broad term for a desire for commitment and mutual emotional nurturing, regardless of a relationship’s specific nature. To feel emotionally attracted to someone is to desire being consistently supportive of and supported by that person emotionally. Subtypes may include amorous, romantic, (q)platonic, mental, and amical attraction.

Name for Erotic Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): ** lust?**21

Name for an Erotic Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):lust?22

Names for an Erotic Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): affair?, sexual relationship?23

Familial

Desiring an emotional closeness with another by virtue of them being family, or desiring an emotional closeness with an unrelated other that mimics a traditionally/idealized familial bond.

Name for Familial Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): sish?24

Name for a Familial Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):siblinghood/wardship/guardianship25

Names for a Familial Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): sibling/parent/child (-figure), ward, guardian26

Fluitic

Also known as “wavering” attraction. Being unsure of what one desires from the object of their attraction due to the nature of said attraction being “wavering” (frequently shifting from one type to another).

Name for Fluitic Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): flush?27

Name for a Fluitic Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):varies, wavership28

Names for a Familial Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): waffle, wavermate29

Intellectual/Psychological

The desire to “share a mindspace” with another by exchanging wisdom, knowledge, or interests. Related to social relationships, but generally where the object of such attraction is not considerered “socially superior.”

Name for Intellectual/Psychological Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): cirus?30

Name for an Intellectual/Psychological Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):mindscape?31

Names for an Intellectual/Psychological Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): ?32

Mental

An umbrella term for any form of intellectual/psychological and spiritual attractions.

Name for Mental Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): varies33

Name for a Mental Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):varies34

Names for a Mental Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): varies35

Plationic

The desire to form a close (or closer) platonic relationship/friendship with another.

Name for Platonic Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): squish, squush, thete36

Name for a Platonic Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):friendship37

Names for a Platonic Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): friend38

Presential

Like sensual attraction, but more the desire to be in someone’s presence than to touch or be intimate with them. A desire to know someone through their presence without an aspect of intimacy. Often coupled with aesthetic, platonic, social, etc.

Name for Presential Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): swoon?39

Name for a Presential Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):observance?40

Names for a Presential Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): varies41

Queerplatonic

(also referred to as qplatonic, quasiplatonic, and quirkyplatonic) Like alterous, it is neither romantic nor platonic, but can be functionally similar to both; a type of attraction that (while certainly aromantic) cannot be properly reduced to platonic without leaving some important aspects out. Also used as an umbrella term for any relationship that falls outside of the strict “romantic-or-platonic” binary.

Name for Queerplatonic Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): plush, squash42

Name for a Queerplatonic Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):QPR43

Names for a Queerplatonic Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): significant other, QP partner, zucchini44

Sensual

Desiring to know another by using one’s senses, especially through touch. This is NOT an explicitly sexual form of physical attraction, though it doesn’t have to be strictly romantic in nature either.
Social - “Aspirational” or mentor-attraction; a desire to be closer to and/or more like someone because of their perceived talent and/or wisdom.

Name for Sensual Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): lush45

Name for a Sensual Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):varies46

Names for a Sensual Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): cuddle buddy(?)47

Spiritual

A desire to be close to another (regardless of the nature of said closeness) based on the belief or feeling that such a relationship is “destiny,” or that the object of such attraction once had a relationship with the subject in a “past life” of sorts. In some cases, it can be used as a subset of social attraction — desiring a mentor-student-type relationship with someone based on their strong spirituality.

Name for Spiritual Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): immesh(?), inmesh(?)48

Name for a Spiritual Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):spiritship?49

Names for a Spiritual Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): spirit guide, soul mate, soul partner, spiritual partner50

Tutelary

Also known as “protective attraction.” A desire to take care, protect and support another. It is the attraction one might feel towards a child, a pet, or a vulnerable person. It is often based in a desire to feel needed.

Name for Tutelary Feelings of Attraction

(“I have a(n) x on you.”): mush51

Name for a Tutelary Relationship

(“I would like to be in a(n) x with you.”):guardianship/wardship52

Names for a Tutelary Partner

(“Will you be my x?”): comate, grace, cherish, ward53

See Also

Split Attraction Model
Romantic Attraction
Sexual Attraction
Attraction Types

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